Inside of Boo's Birthday card
I cannot remember which birthday it was when my sweet daughter sent me this card that she had made. The drawing if from a picture that was taken of Boo (Elizabeth) and her Daddy laying in bed when she was just about a month old. The photo was taken by Mommy. I think she must have been about 10 years old when she made the card. Both my girls were quite the artist. Her sister's nickname was Rachie the Pooh. I'm not sure why she wrote Phooh.
The card is one of my personal treasures.
Thoughts, Opinions, Music Notes & A Little Nonsense From Marc O'Hara
Sunday, October 23, 2005
Monday, October 17, 2005
Some blessings this past week
1. My Son-in-laws father had a bad heart attack on October 9th. He had angioplasty, but was in a delirious state for much of last week. He finally responded to the medication on Thursday October the 13th and was released a couple of days later.
This is pretty amazing. I was an orderly at Jewish Hospital during 1972-73 and often saw patients on the cardiac floor that were non responsive for weeks. The average stay was at least two to three weeks. Angioplasty was in it's infancy.
2. New doggie at our house. Mikey the poodle is so attached to Linny and he cries all the time when she leaves the house. So we got him a buddy. This is Luke the poodle. Mikey is black and Lukie is white. Doggie diversity!
3. I have a four day weekend coming up.
Sunday, October 09, 2005
Vocations Club A Poem I though my Wife would enjoy
by Paula Sergei
We met on Tuesdays after school
with Sister Mary Agnes,
the two Mary Lous, Julie, Kay and me
to learn about being nuns.
The convent sounded good;
a room of my own, a single bed,
time to think and pray, no fighting
over what we'd watch-Bonanza versus Dragnet,
or who would get the couch.
I dug those crazy nun outfits,
and hated hand-me-downswith too long sleeves and too tight waists.
I'd take the smell of polished wood and incense
over burnt grilled cheese and sour milk.
I'd have a good job, teaching kids
and all the chalk I'd want,long,
unbroken pieces that echoed off the board,
all eyes on me as I'd tap directions,conducting my classroom all day.
People, I'd begin, today we're talking about...whatever I want to !
Nuns got great rosaries with fancy beads
and lots of gifts at Christmas.
And the solitude of celibacy sounded pretty good,
better than worrying about French kissing
like my sister, better than pining for men,
like mom, whose men left anyway.
We met on Tuesdays after school
with Sister Mary Agnes,
the two Mary Lous, Julie, Kay and me
to learn about being nuns.
The convent sounded good;
a room of my own, a single bed,
time to think and pray, no fighting
over what we'd watch-Bonanza versus Dragnet,
or who would get the couch.
I dug those crazy nun outfits,
and hated hand-me-downswith too long sleeves and too tight waists.
I'd take the smell of polished wood and incense
over burnt grilled cheese and sour milk.
I'd have a good job, teaching kids
and all the chalk I'd want,long,
unbroken pieces that echoed off the board,
all eyes on me as I'd tap directions,conducting my classroom all day.
People, I'd begin, today we're talking about...whatever I want to !
Nuns got great rosaries with fancy beads
and lots of gifts at Christmas.
And the solitude of celibacy sounded pretty good,
better than worrying about French kissing
like my sister, better than pining for men,
like mom, whose men left anyway.
Visiting Brookville Indiana
My grandmother, Dandy, grew up in Carrollton Kentucky, which is near Brookville Kentucky. But this days post is regarding a town of a similar name that is 200 miles or so to the north and west, Brookville Indiana. My wife, Linny, has befriended a dear girl, named Naomi that lives in this quaint town along the lake with her hubby, Kyle and three sons.
'sweet people that were so kind to invite us to their family's campsite for an outing and dinner. We met the nicest folks. Kyle's parents Tom and Joanne, his sis Kara and BIL Bruce and their kids. Aunt Mimi, neighbors Flo and Fred (anyone ever read the Bobbsie Twins. I think the younger set was Fred and Flo(ssie). But I digress).
The campers there were so impressive with all the comforts of home only perhaps better. We are not talking tents and campfires, but big aluminum formed structures with all the conveniences including a nice indoor loo. Linny, Mikey and I had a great time. Well Mikey (the attack poodle) was a little shy and nervous and extremely cold.
The funniest thing was sitting in Naomi's living room and waiting for Kyle to come home from work. She has a large picture window that is more entertaining than most network TV shows.
There was this little boy, all of about 8 years old that was riding his bicycle up and down the street. We were not certain if he was dressed as a vampire or the scarlet pimpernel. The young fellow was wearing a black cape with a collar, a scarlet vest and a ruffled blouse with large sleeves. He also had a white cloth string tie, black slacks and flip flops. We were thinking he was pobably Count Floppula since every so often he would put his thumb to his upper teeth. This was a cute kid.
Seeing this made me think back to my childhood when I savaged the areas of Sherman and Sheridan in my homemade cape and mask saving the imaginary peasants from the overbearing imaginary governors greed. My, my those were the days.
'sweet people that were so kind to invite us to their family's campsite for an outing and dinner. We met the nicest folks. Kyle's parents Tom and Joanne, his sis Kara and BIL Bruce and their kids. Aunt Mimi, neighbors Flo and Fred (anyone ever read the Bobbsie Twins. I think the younger set was Fred and Flo(ssie). But I digress).
The campers there were so impressive with all the comforts of home only perhaps better. We are not talking tents and campfires, but big aluminum formed structures with all the conveniences including a nice indoor loo. Linny, Mikey and I had a great time. Well Mikey (the attack poodle) was a little shy and nervous and extremely cold.
The funniest thing was sitting in Naomi's living room and waiting for Kyle to come home from work. She has a large picture window that is more entertaining than most network TV shows.
There was this little boy, all of about 8 years old that was riding his bicycle up and down the street. We were not certain if he was dressed as a vampire or the scarlet pimpernel. The young fellow was wearing a black cape with a collar, a scarlet vest and a ruffled blouse with large sleeves. He also had a white cloth string tie, black slacks and flip flops. We were thinking he was pobably Count Floppula since every so often he would put his thumb to his upper teeth. This was a cute kid.
Seeing this made me think back to my childhood when I savaged the areas of Sherman and Sheridan in my homemade cape and mask saving the imaginary peasants from the overbearing imaginary governors greed. My, my those were the days.
Thursday, October 06, 2005
WILD CARD - a poem on Our 33 Wedding Anniversary
by Cathryn Essinger
The local newspaper reports
a Houston housewife has found
a three foot long snake indigenous
to California in her electric toaster.I need to talk to this woman. I want
to know what kind of bread attracts
snakes, if she goes to church on Sundays
and if she believes in chance.While I have her on the phone, I want
to ask about other irregularities, such as
the Osage orange that showed upon my front step, a fruit so large
no creature could have carried it.And what does she make of the wild card
I found in a pile of leaves-a Jack of Spades
masquerading as some variety of oak?
Or the crow who paces the patio,
carrying a packet of taco sauce,
dipping his beak casually, as if
hot sauce were his natural food.
I'd ask about the mouse I found
this morning in the dog's bowl,frantic, half drowned, the small cap
of his skull bobbing like a tiny buoy.
Still, he swam, betting against all odds
that some housewife might appear
on this Sunday morning, looking for eggs
or waffle mix, and the opportunity to tip
the bowl onto a sunny porch where
a small thing, who has never questioned
the implacable nature of the universe,
could have another chance.
Happy 33rd to my darling sweet, pretty wife Linny
Wednesday, October 05, 2005
Supreme Court Judicial Candidate
October 5, 2005 New York Times
DALLAS, Oct. 4 - By 1979, Harriet E. Miers, then in her mid-30's, had accomplished what some people take a lifetime to achieve. She was a partner at Locke Purnell Boren Laney & Neely, one of the most prestigious law firms in the South, with an office on the 35th floor of the Republic National Bank Tower in downtown Dallas.
But she still felt something was missing in her life, and it was after a series of long discussions - rambling conversations about family and religion and other matters that typically stretched from early evening into the night - with Nathan L. Hecht, a junior colleague at the law firm, that she made a decision that many of the people around her say changed her life.
"She decided that she wanted faith to be a bigger part of her life," Justice Hecht, who now serves on the Texas Supreme Court, said in an interview. "One evening she called me to her office and said she was ready to make a commitment" to accept Jesus Christ as her savior and be born again, he said. He walked down the hallway from his office to hers, and there amid the legal briefs and court papers, Ms. Miers and Justice Hecht "prayed and talked," he said.
She was baptized not long after that, at the Valley View Christian Church.
It was a pivotal personal transformation for the woman now named for a seat on the United States Supreme Court, not entirely unlike that experienced by President Bush and others in the Texas political and business establishment of that time.
Ms. Miers, born Roman Catholic, became an evangelical Christian and began identifying more with Republicans than with the Democrats who had long held sway over Texas politics. She joined the missions committee of her church, which is against legalized abortion, and friends and colleagues say she rarely looked back at her past as a Democrat.
"There weren't that many Republicans in Texas in those days," said Merrie Spaeth, a director of media relations at the White House under Ronald Reagan who met Ms. Miers after moving to Dallas in 1985. "Harriet is what you would call a Southern lady. It is marvelous to watch her in meetings with huge egos, where she allows people to think good results are the product of their own ideas."
To persuade the right to embrace Ms. Miers's selection despite her lack of a clear record on social issues, representatives of the White House put Justice Hecht on at least one conference call with influential social conservative organizers on Monday to talk about her faith and character.
Some evangelical Protestants were heralding the possibility that one of their own would have a seat on the court after decades of complaining that their brand of Christianity met condescension and exclusion from the American establishment.
In an interview Tuesday on the televangelist Pat Robertson's "700 Club," Jay Sekulow, chief counsel of the Christian conservative American Center for Law and Justice, said Ms. Miers would be the first evangelical Protestant on the court since the 1930's. "So this is a big opportunity for those of us who have a conviction, that share an evangelical faith in Christianity, to see someone with our positions put on the court," Mr. Sekulow said.
But other conservatives were unappeased, looking for someone with clearly stated public commitments on social issues like abortion.
While Ms. Miers rarely wore her religious thinking on her sleeve, her gradual tilt toward conservative views resulted in some uneasy moments when she took a break from a lucrative law practice and delved into politics with a campaign for the Dallas City Council in 1989, running for a nonpartisan post. She appeared as a candidate at the Dallas Gay and Lesbian Political Caucus, but even though she said gays should have the same civil rights as others in society, she stopped short of endorsing a repeal of a Texas law criminalizing gay sexual activity.
Religion appears to have influenced her views on certain subjects. In a discussion with her campaign manager in 1989, Ms. Miers said she had been in favor in her younger years of a woman's right to have an abortion, but her views evolved against abortion, influenced largely by her born-again religious beliefs, said Lorlee Bartos, a Democratic campaign consultant in Dallas who managed Ms. Miers's City Council campaign.
"She was someone whose view had shifted, and she explained that to me," Ms. Bartos said.
Still, pragmatism, not ideology, seems to have guided Ms. Miers on most issues in her brief period in public office before she went on in 1995 to be named by Gov. George W. Bush to head the Texas State Lottery and then followed him to Washington.
One of the most controversial issues before the Dallas City Council during Ms. Miers's single term that ended in 1991 was a battle over whether the city should adopt a plan doing away with council members elected at large, an election method that minority groups in Dallas criticized as marginalizing them from municipal politics.
Ms. Miers, elected as an at-large council member, initially favored the at-large system, but her position evolved to support a proposal that would create a collection of different districts in the city. This was adopted and eventually led to greater representation of blacks and Hispanics in Dallas.
While known as a moderate conservative, "Harriet didn't really distinguish herself," said Domingo Garcia, a lawyer who was elected to the Council in the early 1990's after the bitter redistricting fight. "She wasn't a leader and wasn't furniture," said Mr. Garcia, a former mayoral candidate in Dallas and the national civil rights chairman for the League of United Latin American Citizens. "She was in between."
And yet Ms. Miers, known for her thorough study of the issues before the Council, acquired the grudging respect of some colleagues across the political spectrum. "You might think she's a pushover because she looks meek and humble," said Al Lipscomb, a former city council member. "But can America handle a Republican conservative who's fair? She is a tigress when it comes to the law."
The Dallas of political battles over minority and gay rights, of course, was substantially different from the predominantly white and segregated city where she was born the fourth of five children. Few schools were more emblematic of the old Dallas than Hillcrest High School, from which Ms. Miers graduated in 1963.
"It was a school in the sense like schools were supposed to be," said Ron Natinsky, a classmate of Ms. Miers who is now on the Dallas City Council, referring to an atmosphere of respect and decorum. "Teachers were addressed as ma'am or sir."
The strait-laced student body at Hillcrest was also almost entirely white, with integration in that part of Dallas several years off when Ms. Miers graduated, Mr. Natinsky said. Her yearbook from 1963 shows photographs of a blond, smiling senior, described by classmates as "efficient, sweet and sincere, good at sports from what we hear." Mr. Natinsky remembered her as someone involved in clubs and school activities, but not part of the "cool crowd."
"She was almost an unseen person at school," Mr. Natinsky said.
Ms. Miers sometimes attended Mass at St. Jude Chapel in downtown Dallas, but before embracing evangelical Protestantism, her experience with religion was lukewarm and her attendance sporadic, Justice Hecht said.
Her friends say that there is much about her world experience that shapes her attitudes and views, from her rise in a male-dominated legal profession to her years of loyalty and counsel to Mr. Bush in Texas and Washington.
But as important as her professional trajectory, friends and family of Ms. Miers say, is the influence of religion on her approach to issues of political and legal importance. After joining Valley View Christian Church, she began teaching a Sunday night class for first, second and third graders at the church, called Whirlybirds.
Vickie Wilson, the office manager at Valley View, knew Ms. Miers from the time she began attending the church in 1979; Ms. Wilson's two daughters, now 27 and 30, were in Ms. Miers's Sunday youth group. Even though it was known that she was a high-powered lawyer in Dallas, "she never used the church to further her political career," Ms. Wilson said.
"She never took a role where she was trying to stand out front," Ms. Wilson said. "She put herself in servant roles, making coffee every Sunday morning and putting doughnuts out."
A close relationship with Justice Hecht - also a longtime member of Valley View - who frequently appears with Ms. Miers at social functions in Washington and in Texas, has been a steady feature of her life for nearly 30 years. Justice Hecht is known as one of the most conservative members of the Republican-dominated Texas Supreme Court.
Newspapers in Texas have reported that Justice Hecht and Ms. Miers were romantically involved, and when asked in an interview whether that was still the case, Justice Hecht responded that they were close, without going into great detail. "She works in Washington, I work in Austin," Justice Hecht said. "We have dinner when she's here; if she invites me to Washington I happily go. We talk on the phone all the time."
Justice Hecht and Ms. Miers spoke on Sunday evening, but she did not tell him about the pending announcement that she had been offered the nomination, he said. "She's a stickler for the rules," he said. He never asked Ms. Miers how she would vote on the issue of abortion if it came before the Supreme Court, he said. "She probably wouldn't answer, she wouldn't view it as appropriate."
"Yes, she goes to a pro-life church," Justice Hecht said, adding, "I know Harriet is, too." The two attended "two or three" anti-abortion fund-raising dinners in the early 1990's, he said, but added that she had not otherwise been active in the anti-abortion movement. "You can be just as pro-life as the day is long and can decide the Constitution requires Roe" to be upheld, he said.
Apart from the questions about abortion and other issues Ms. Miers will face in confirmation hearings, the strong tie she and Justice Hecht have to their church is undergoing a test. The congregation at Valley View is in the middle of a schism, and Mr. Hecht said he and Ms. Miers are siding with the splinter groups that are forming a new church under Valley View's longtime pastor, Ron Key.
Church members said in interviews that Mr. Key was fired several weeks ago by the Valley View board of elders after he refused to take a less prominent role in the church's leadership. The members said that the pastor and the board members disagreed on several matters, including the appointments of new ministers and whether the church should adopt more contemporary forms of worship services to try to attract newer and younger members.
Dr. Barry McCarty, the Valley View pastor, said Ms. Miers has often asked the congregation to pray for her and the president, and he added that even if she is joining the roughly 150 members that have left to start a new church, he believes that the Valley View members will continue those prayers.
"Our particular congregation is committed to starting new churches," Dr. McCarty said. "It's something they do with our blessing."
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
THE CHRISTIAN BOOKSTORE - BOB BELL
However these days Christian bookstores give me the Jibblies. Ooooh!
First of all you got about 600 versions of the same Bible. I'm not talking about the NIV, ASV, KJV, RSV, Living Bible, Good News etc. I talking about age specific, gender specific, life style specific Bibles. There are the Young Womens Study Bible, the Life Application Bible for men, women, and teens, the Group Study Bible, the Life Application Bible, the Teenager Bible, The Children's Bible, both girls and boys editions, the Barney Bible and many, many more. I'm glad folks are reading God's Word. However this just seems like a marketing ploy.
Did I mention Scripture Candy, Bible Bars and Promise mints! They also sell Christian toys. Promise Ponies and Prayer Bears.
Do they have videos and records you ask? Well of course!
They don't actually sell records since they make CD's now. But they have thousands of CD's and the company pushes the artist of the month. Did you ever hear of Christian Black Metal rock? 'didn't think so. They have it there. Christian Skateboard Punk? Yep! Also Gospel and Christian Pop. You want to be the next Amy or Patty? Go buy some Trax. They have lots of those.
They have lot's of magazines for sale too. CCM, Charismatic, Popular Prayer, Gospel Singalong, Modern Leadership Magazine. They sell videos of all sorts. Videos of popular singers and groups. Videos of teachings. They have Christian Cartoons and Christian super heroes for the kiddies.
Many people like to shop at the Christian Book store. My wife enjoys going there.
I don't like it. But that's just me.
When my wife and I were at the bookstore last weekend I happened to hear an exerpt from a video presentation by a fellow named Bob Bell. He has some teaching videos and books to supplement group studies. I think his material is geared to younger Christians.
This guy made a couple of great points.
Why does the world view Christians as they do?
Why does the world look at us as fools that believe in something that the world believes does not exist?
Where did the World get that idea?
Out of the millions and millions of true believers throughout the world why are not more of us vocal in suppressing this incorrect view of Christianity.
Why do only a few speak for so many and why do some of those who claim to be leaders not express the truth? Who appointed them?
I just had never thought about these things before.
With the exception of a few great and humble men and women, most of what the world views as Christianity comes from a few of the outspoken that have turned into caricatures of themselves.
Maybe this is God's Plan.
Sunday, September 25, 2005
Galveston
Today I'm reading the news about Hurricane Rita, hitting the Texas town of Galveston. Fortunately the devestation was no where as bad as in New Orleans when Katrina hit a few weeks ago. Yet this was not the case in the year 1900 when 6000 residents of Galveston perished.
Jim Webb is one of my favorite songwriters. His list of well known songs is endless.
Not many people realize that his song "Galveston" is about a soldier that was caught up in the Spanish American War that occurred from February 1898 to December of the same year. Within just 3 short four line verses and a chorus the feelings of soldiers everywhere are expressed. The fear they have of losing their lives and their yearning to be back home with those that they love.
Galveston, oh Galveston, I still hear your sea winds blowin'
I still see her dark eyes glowin'
She was 21 when I left Galveston
Galveston, oh Galveston, I still hear your sea waves crashing
While I watch the cannons flashing
I clean my gun and dream of Galveston
I still see her standing by the water
Standing there lookin' out to sea
And is she waiting there for me?
On the beach where we used to run
Galveston, oh Galveston, I am so afraid of dying
Before I dry the tears she's crying
Before I watch your sea birds flying in the sun
At Galveston, at Galveston
Glen Campbell's voice and the wonderful guitar melody played on a Danelectro 6 string bass, and Webb's arrangement make this one of the memorable songs of all time.
Saturday, September 24, 2005
Obituary for Simon Wiesenthal
Simon Wiesenthal survived the Nazi death camps, but was haunted for the rest of his life by the need to track down those responsible for them.
Born in Lviv, then part of the Austro-Hungarian empire, into a family of Orthodox Jews, Simon Wiesenthal survived the Soviet invasion of the area in the late 1930s, and suffered the arrival of the Nazis in 1941.
As a young architect, Wiesenthal watched his mother being transported away for execution. He believed his wife Cyla had died too. In fact, she had escaped persecution by pretending to be a Pole.
He spent four years in concentration camps, once spared by a firing squad that stopped before it reached him.
Unaccounted for as the advancing Red Army pushed into Germany, Wiesenthal was forced to march westwards by his SS guards. The survivors of this arduous trek were liberated, finally, by American troops at the Mauthausen camp in Austria, in May 1945.
Holocaust horror: Wiesenthal's drawings He cried from loneliness and then dictated a list of 91 names of camp officials. He later tracked down more than 70 of them.
In 1947, Wiesenthal helped establish a centre in Linz, Austria, devoted to collecting information for use in future war crimes trials. Despite the successes of the Nuremberg trials, many of the Nazi regime's most notorious killers remained unaccounted for. And while the Cold War brewed between East and West, Nazi hunting fell from the political agenda.
Dispirited, Wiesenthal closed the Linz office in 1954, Worldwide network . But his enthusiasm was rekindled with the capture by Israeli agents of Adolf Eichmann, the architect of the so-called Final Solution.
Buoyed by the trial and execution of the Nazi technocrat, Wiesenthal opened the Jewish Documentation Centre in Vienna. Collating sightings and tip-offs from a worldwide network of sympathisers, human rights activists and even former Nazis themselves, he pursued the 90,000 people named in the German war crimes files.
Both the Wiesenthals survived the war. His biggest success was bringing Franz Stangl to justice in West Germany in 1967. Stangl was commandant at Treblinka where an estimated 800,000 Jews died. In all, he was believed to have brought 1100 war criminals to trial.
The Simon Wiesenthal Centre, set up in the United States in 1977, has pressed for the extradition of numerous war crimes suspects, as well as campaigning for the rights of Holocaust survivors and an end to pensions for SS officers.
In 1986, he succeeded in having gypsy representatives included on the Holocaust Memorial Council in Washington DC.
His biggest disappointments were his failure to secure the capture of Gestapo chief, Heinrich Muller, and Auschwitz doctor, Josef Mengele, who died in Brazil in 1978.
Dogged perseverance, Simon Wiesenthal's career was not without its controversial aspects. He was accused of egocentricity by those who claimed he took more than his fair share of credit for the arrest of Adolf Eichmann. He was also involved in a personal spat with the former, and first Jewish, Chancellor of Austria, Bruno Kreisky.
Eichmann's capture rekindled Wiesenthal's enthusiasm. Wiesenthal objected to Kreisky's overtures to a far-right Austrian party leader to save his coalition government.
Kreisky, a socialist, falsely accused Wiesenthal of having collaborated with the Gestapo at the end of the war. Wiesenthal also fell out with the World Jewish Congress when he refused to support their case for blacklisting the former UN Secretary-General Kurt Waldheim, who had sought to become Austrian chancellor.
He dismissed the WJC's allegations that Waldheim had assisted in the deportation of Jews during the war.
But his dogged perseverance in hunting down those who had colluded in the most barbarous of crimes made him a legend in his lifetime. He always claimed he sought justice not vengeance.
"I might forgive them for myself," he once said, "but I couldn't speak for the millions they killed."
Wiesenthal authored a book, "Sunflower -On the Possibilities and Limits of Forgiveness ."
The premise of this book is based on a day when doing slave labor in Nazi concentration camp that Wiesenthal was taken from his work detail to the bedside of a dying member of the S.S. Haunted by the crimes in which he had participated, the soldier wanted to confess to and obtain absolution from - a Jew.
This unusual encounter and the moral dilemma it posed raise fundamental questions about the limits and possibilities of forgiveness. Must we, can we forgive the repentant criminal? Can we forgive crimes committed against others? What do we owe the victims? Twenty-five years after the Holocaust, Wiesenthal asked leading intellectuals what they would have done in his place. Collected into one volume, their responses became a classic of Holocaust literature and a touchstone of interfaith dialogue.
This revised edition of The Sunflower includes 46 responses (10 from the original volume) from prominent theologians, political leaders, writers, jurists, psychiatrists, human rights activists, Holocaust survivors, and victims of attempted genocides in Bosnia, Cambodia, China, and Tibet. Their answers reflect the teachings of their diverse beliefs - Jewish, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, secular, and agnostic - and remind us that Wiesenthal's question is not limited to events of the past.
Thursday, September 22, 2005
The Word Of God Will Not Return Void
This was on the AP wire today.
The nonprofit Bible Literacy Project of Fairfax, Va., spent five years and $2 million developing "The Bible and Its Influence." The textbook, introduced at a Washington news conference, won initial endorsements from experts in literature, religion and church-state law.
American Jewish Congress attorney Marc Stern, an adviser on the effort, said despite concern over growing tensions among U.S. religious groups, "this book is proof that the despair is premature, that it is possible to acknowledge and respect deep religious differences and yet still find common ground."
Another adviser, evangelical literature scholar Leland Ryken of Wheaton College, called the textbook "a triumph of scholarship and a major publishing event."
The colorful $50 book and forthcoming teacher's guide, covering both Old and New Testaments, are planned for semester-long or full-year courses starting next year. The editors are Cullen Schippe, a retired vice president at textbook publisher Macmillan/McGraw-Hill, and Chuck Stetson, a venture capitalist who chairs Bible Literacy.
The 41 contributors include prominent evangelical, mainline Protestant, Roman Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Jewish and secular experts. Religious lobbies and federal courts have long struggled over Bible course content. To avoid problems, Bible Literacy's editors accommodated Jewish sensitivities about the New Testament, attributed reports about miracles to the source rather than simply calling them historical facts and generally downplayed scholarly theories -- about authorship and dates, for example -- that offend conservatives.
Educators know biblical knowledge is valuable -- 60 percent of allusions in one English Advanced Placement prep course came from the Bible -- and that polls show teens don't know much about Scripture. Yet few public schools offer such coursework, partly due to demands for other elective classes, partly over legal worries. The U.S. Supreme Court's 1963 decision barring schoolroom Bible recitations said that "the Bible is worthy of study for its literary and historic qualities" if "presented objectively as part of a secular program of education." The textbook follows detailed principles in a 1999 accord, "The Bible and Public Schools," brokered by Bible Literacy and the First Amendment Center, a nonpartisan program of the Freedom Forum devoted to constitutional liberties.
That accord is endorsed by seven major educational organizations and Christian, Jewish and Muslim groups. Stetson said "the important thing was not to compromise on peoples' beliefs. They are what they are." To Schippe, the key to effective education is respect for the biblical text, constitutional law, scholarship, various faith traditions and divergent interpretations.
The new textbook was tested in two high schools. Bible Literacy will offer online teacher training through Concordia University in Portland, Ore. The First Amendment Center's Charles Haynes told the news conference that public schools constantly ask him for advice on what Bible course material to use but he's had nothing he could recommend -- "nothing, that is, until now." Haynes says the only previous textbook, decades old, was inadequate because it treated the Bible only as literature, slighting its religious significance.
Another program, favored by evangelical groups and used in hundreds of schools, comes from the National Council on Bible Curriculum in Public Schools of Greensboro, N.C. It provides a teacher's outline with the Bible itself as the textbook.
Tuesday, September 20, 2005
There Will Be Poor With You Always
Jesus said that "there will be poor with you always." There is a good reason that He made that statement.
We have generations of folks that go from cradle to grave seemingly content to exist on welfare. The drop out rate in high schools is unbelievable as is the truancy rate in many schools. As far back as in the 1980's I was shocked to learn that the local high school was allowing students to "intern" at Wendy's and McDonald's. The reasoning the schools offered was the kids were studying a valuable industry, food service and they were supplementing their family's income, since "Dad" was not a factor in many families since the parents were never married. By working, the kids also got free meals. However the school also was the recipient of tax money from the state, since the kids were considered "students" as opposed to mere drop outs working at Wendy's and McDonald's studying a valuable skill in the fast food industry, supplementing their family income and getting free meals. Why didn't the school set the goals a little loftier?
This weekend as I listened in amazement to a public radio news program I realized that their reasoning supported the fact that, "the poor will always be with us."
The show reported that a few weeks ago those housed at the Houston Astrodome were offered the chance of a life time by several different States. The States were eager to make a difference for the unfortunate folks that had lost everything in Hurricane Katrina. The State of Colorado set up a booth in the Texas facility. Colorado offered to anyone displaced by the hurricane a 3 bedroom house with all appliances and furniture with no mortgage for a year, free home owner insurance for a year and also family medical insurance for a year, free education, free groceries and clothing. They would be guaranteed a job at either Wal-Marts or Coca Cola. During the first week, out of the tens of thousands housed in the Astrodome only two families took advantage of this opportunity. The State of Florida made a very similar offer at their booth. Thirty-five families signed on to move to Florida. Why the difference? Florida was warm and they equated Colorado with the entertain. During the second week more people did sign on for the move. A total of 35 signed on to move to Colorado and 48 to Florida. The rub with Florida is that you are back in Hurricane Alley. I would assume that other states were there with similar offers. The only downside is that within a year, the person would have to assume responsibility.
So why out of all those stuck living in the Astrodome did only 83 families want a life changing "hand up" that involved some initiative and decision on their part? I may be wrong, but what I am thinking is many there were stuck in the mindset of welfare and the monthly government check , Medicaid, food stamps etc. Responsibility is not an option.
The fellow on public radio failed to understand that we all have to work for what we have? It certainly is very, very hard to break away from the cycle of poverty especially for a young, female with children and have no man to support you financially, emotionally and be a father to his offspring. All individual situations are differing. But there are those that have no work ethic and no desire change this attitude.
Jesus said, "There will be poor with you always."
Wednesday, September 14, 2005
Mennonites
Mennonites
We keep our quilts in closets and do not dance.
We hoe thistles along fence rows for fear we may not be perfect as our Heavenly Father.
We clean up his disasters. No one has to call; we just show up in the wake of tornadoes with hammers, after floods with buckets.
Like Jesus, the servant, we wash each other's feet twice a year and eat the Lord's Supper,
afraid of sins hidden so deep in our organs they could damn us unawares, swallowing this bread, his body, this juice.
Growing up, we love the engravings in Martyrs Mirror: men drowned like cats in burlap sacks,the Catholic inquisitors,
the woman who handed a pear to her son, her tongue screwed to the roof of her mouthto keep her from singing hymns while she burned.
We love Catherine the Great and the rich tracts she gave us in the Ukraine, bright green winter wheat, the Cossacks who torched it, and Stalin,who starved our cousins while wheat rotted in granaries.
We must love our enemies.
We must forgive as our sins are forgiven, our great-uncle tells us, showing the chain and ball in a cage whittled from one block of wood while he was in prison for refusing to shoulder a gun.
He shows the clipping from 1916:
Mennonites are German milksops, too yellow to fight.
We love those Nazi soldiers who, like Moses, led the last cattle cars rocking out of the Ukraine, crammed with our parents—children then—learning the names of Kansas, Saskatchewan, Paraguay.
This is why we cannot leave the beliefs or what else would we be?
Why we eat 'til we're drunk on shoofly and moon pies and borscht.
We do not drink; we sing. Unaccompanied on Sundays, those hymns in four parts, our voices lift with such force that we lift, as chaff lifts toward God.
Monday, September 12, 2005
Where Is the Outrage?
If an event such as this happened in the United States, would the ACLU speak up? We have plenty of historical preservation societies that are protesting destruction of old buildings. There is a public outcry if a church or synagogue is demolished. Why is the Church not speaking it's voice? Solomon's Temple was desecrated in much the same manner. What was that about history repeating itself? Nothing really changes, does it?
GAZA CITY — Palestinians surged triumphantly into demolished Jewish settlements in the
early today, torching empty synagogues and firing shots into the air, as the last Israeli soldiers withdrew after 38 years of occupation.
The troops' departure marked the final step in the government's decision to leave Gaza, which
Israel captured in the 1967 Middle East War, and opened an era laden with uncertainty for the coastal enclave's 1.3 million Palestinian residents. Having evacuated about 8,500 Jewish settlers last month and overseen the razing of their homes, the 3,000 Israeli soldiers moved out before sunrise in convoys of tanks and armored personnel carriers. As they left, calls went out from mosques declaring Gaza's "liberation."
"This is a day of happiness and joy that the Palestinian people have not witnessed for a century," President Mahmoud Abbas said.
At the former Netzarim settlement in northern Gaza, one of several places where crowds pushed past cordons of Palestinian police after the Israeli troops had left, thick clouds of smoke darkened the sky at dawn.
Men made their way around the demolished community on bicycle, donkey and foot, scavenging door frames and toilets. Some in the crowd tied the flags of the largest militant groups — green for Hamas, black for Islamic Jihad — around their necks as capes.
"It's ours now, and I had to come out to see it with my own eyes," said Raed Dashan, 29, of Gaza City.
Celebrating Palestinians set fire to the synagogue in Netzarim, and there were reports of similar torchings in Morag and other locations. Palestinian security forces appeared to have decided not to use force and instead let the celebrations play out, although it was unclear whether they could have held back the crowds if they had wanted to.
The Israeli Cabinet held its final vote on the pullout Sunday. Within hours, Israeli military commanders in the Gaza Strip had lowered their nation's flag, and the first convoys of armored vehicles began carrying equipment out of the territory.
In a last-minute reversal, the Cabinet voted to leave intact more than two dozen synagogues in the former settlements, despite warnings from Palestinian Authority officials that they could not ensure their protection. Palestinian officials announced late Sunday that they would demolish the buildings.
Palestinian leaders' displeasure with the Israeli Cabinet's decision on the synagogues prompted them to boycott a hand-over ceremony with Israeli commanders at the Erez crossing between Israel and the northern Gaza Strip.
Last month, Israel evacuated all 21 Jewish settlements in Gaza and four tiny communities in the northern West Bank', an area its forces also seized during the 1967 conflict. The moves marked the first time Israel had abandoned established settlements in areas the Palestinians hope to make their own state.
Preparations for the troop pullout unfolded Sunday in an atmosphere of historic significance, with Israeli commentators assessing the long Israeli presence, and ordinary Gazans, especially those living in towns and villages nearest the former settlements, expressing plain joy.
"We're so, so, so happy," said Yehiyeh Bashir, a 55-year-old father of nine whose house in the village of Deir al Balah overlooked the settlement of Kfar Darom. He and neighbors pulled up white plastic chairs and sipped tea, watching the slow, rumbling movement of Israeli tanks in Kfar Darom, now a wasteland of rubble.
A carnival air hung over much of Gaza. Teens keeping lookout shouted excitedly to one another whenever a tank began moving. Women ululated in celebration, and car horns honked. Trucks mounted with speakers moved through the streets, playing Palestinian nationalist songs and waving Hamas or Islamic Jihad flags.
Controversy over the synagogues within Israel's government crackled until the last minute, when the majority of Cabinet ministers reversed course by voting against demolition after intensive lobbying by rabbis who opposed the razing of the houses of worship. Private homes in the evacuated settlements had already been demolished.
The 14-2 Cabinet vote overturned a 15-month-old government decision to destroy synagogues as part of the evacuation.
The Cabinet decision to leave the synagogues in place crossed party lines, but commentators said the shift appeared to have been influenced heavily by maneuvering in Prime Minister
Ariel Sharon''s conservative Likud Party.
The party's hard-line central committee will meet in two weeks to decide whether to hold an early primary and, Israeli analysts said, ministers were mindful of how the synagogue issue would play out among its members, many of whom are religiously observant. The tide began to turn late last week, when Defense Minister Shaul Mofaz, who previously had spoken in favor of demolition, announced that he now opposed destroying the synagogues. On Sunday, Sharon said he too had changed his mind.
The decision left the fate of the synagogues in Abbas' hands. Palestinian officials had turned down an earlier Israeli request that they act as caretakers because of concerns that they could not prevent militants from defacing the synagogues as symbols of the Israeli presence.
"It is a very unfair decision to put us in a situation where if we demolish them we will be doomed, and if we don't, we'll be doomed," chief Palestinian negotiator Saeb Erekat said. "This is the last thing we want."
Other critics said desecration of the buildings by Palestinians might spur Jewish extremists to attack Muslim houses of worship in retaliation, setting off a new cycle of conflict.
The Cabinet's vote was its last on the Gaza evacuation, which has dominated political debate in Israel for a year and a half. Sharon proposed leaving Gaza, the scene of frequent clashes between Israeli soldiers and Palestinian militants, as a way to reduce friction and allow Israel to focus on retaining its much larger settlements in the West Bank. On Sunday evening, Israeli soldiers lowered their nation's flag in a ceremony at the army's Gaza division headquarters near the former settlement of Neve Dekalim.
"This is the beginning of a new chapter," the division's commander, Brig. Gen. Aviv Kochavi, said during the solemn, 20-minute event. "The strip is being transferred to our neighbors. It's the beginning of a new reality, which only the future will tell what it holds for us."
It remains to be seen whether the Israeli troops, once departed, will stay gone for long.
Israel has promised to respond harshly to volleys of rockets or mortar shells fired by militants from Gaza into southern Israeli communities. Israel also could strike if it sees the Palestinian Authority as doing too little to rein in fighters or arms smuggling.
Abbas has orchestrated seven months of relative quiet by coaxing militant groups, particularly Hamas, into halting their attacks. But Israel wants him to confront the militias more forcefully, saying Palestinian leaders' success in subduing armed groups will help determine whether future peace moves are possible.
"For the first time, not only in 38 years, but ever, Gaza is given the opportunity to act like a state, with its own regime," Giora Eiland, Israel's national security chief, told Israel Radio on Sunday.
But Palestinians say it is premature to declare an end to Israel's military occupation until it gives up control of border crossings and allows them to reopen the airport and construct a seaport.
"By reserving itself the ability to invade the Gaza Strip and by maintaining control over Palestinian airspace, territorial waters and most importantly its borders, Israel will continue its military rule over Palestinians," Civil Affairs Minister Mohammed Dahlan said in a statement.
Saturday, September 10, 2005
775th Field Artillery Battalion - 3rd Army
I just got back from enjoying a few days with my Dad's old Army buddies. There are only about 10 of these guys left and they are all in their 80's.Most enlisted when they were 18 or 19 years old.
It was a pleasure to sit with them and hear about their lives during those days. I'd like to share the stories, but I've been sworn to secrecy. However I will drop a few hints. Digging foxholes ain't no fun at all, questionable beverages, cow procurement and midnight requisitions.
I salute you guys. And Smokey, I sure miss you.
It was a pleasure to sit with them and hear about their lives during those days. I'd like to share the stories, but I've been sworn to secrecy. However I will drop a few hints. Digging foxholes ain't no fun at all, questionable beverages, cow procurement and midnight requisitions.
I salute you guys. And Smokey, I sure miss you.
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
5 YEAR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER MUST HAVE A PIN
I find life in this age to be ludicrous! Nowadays children have to pass an admission examination to be accepted into kindergarten. They learn to use computers when they are three years old. I know this because we purchased a computer program for kids ages 3-5. And my sweet little pumpkin has to have a four-digit personal identification number to get ice cream for her school lunch.
Princess Hope has just started kindergarten. Since the kids go all day, the school provides lunch for the kiddies, but they need to bring 50 cents if they want to buy ice cream. And who doesn't want to buy ice cream? To make sure everyone is honest, fair and accounted for, when the kindergartners buy ice cream bars, they have to type in a PIN into a computer that is connected to the cash register. (Perhaps the school sell the list of names to Equifax and Hope will start getting little kid junk mail)
In reflection, when I was five we didn't get ice cream. We did get milk, in a 1/2 pint glass bottle. A dangerous, extremely breakable glass bottle and heavy glass bottle. We also got a black cookie. A very hard black cookie. It was supposed to be chocolate. It was just black. It wasn't even sweet. Probably because we were facing the Cuba problem, the Bay of Pigs and a shortage of cane sugar in those days. Yep what we got was this hard flat cookie, a black cookie, a cookie that built character. We didn't get ice cream. Not ever! When someone had a birthday, we got milk and black cookies. There were no computers to enter in a four digit PIN code. I think we had an abacus, but no one showed us how it worked. It was in the toy box. We were deprived...I guess. No ice cream, no computer PIN code, no computer. There was no computer because there were no computer chips in 1958. No one invented computer chips. However we sat in the lunchroom and dreamed of chips. Chocolate chips. The ones in the cookies that the rich kids in the private schools were having with their half-pint bottles of milk. No hard black cookies for them. No dodge ball either.
Instead of paying for our milk and black cookies through electronic funds transfer, we used the bucket method. The milk money bucket. It was wooden, small and had a rope handle. We had to kick in 3 cents every school day for milk and black cookies. .. into the bucket.
A year later when I was six and in the first grade I was strong armed by Dr. Douglas Stephens DDS. School lunch was 35 cents a day. It was good too. I have memories of the cafeteria line that featured a five gallon tub of government butter. Real cholesterol clogging butter. Delicious! The ladies put huge gobs of it on my mashed potatoes. There was also a five gallon stainless steel bowl of grape jelly. My friend Jim freaked after seeing "The Blob." He couldn't face that jelly anymore. Large quantities of jelly gave him the jibblies.
But I digress. Dr. Stephens DDS, who was also six at the time let me know in no uncertain terms that he wanted 5 cents from me everyday. He might have collected enough money from me to pay his way through dental school had not the lunch lady contacted my Mom inquiring when she was going to get busy and pay my past due cafeteria bill. The account was delinquent and Miss Sprouse wanted it brought up to date immediately or legal action would be taken. This ended Dr. Stephens DDS reign of terror and this was the first in a long line of bills to come, bill collectors and folks that have strong armed me.
In 1958 I never had to learn a PIN. Heck a PIN was something in Grandma's sewing kit. But now Hopie has to have a PIN to access her ice cream account. We've come a long way baby!
Sunday, August 28, 2005
Seven Branched Menorah
My wife Linny questioned the Krauthammer article in regards to the seven branched Menorah. She had never heard of such a thing. The Menorah that we usually think of is the one with nine branches.
The original Menorah was the golden candelabra that G-d commanded the Jewish People to make and place in the Holy Temple. It had six branches and a stem, making seven lamps in all. The kohanim (priests) lit it once a day. The Torah relates its measurements and design in Exodus 25:31-40.
The Sages teach that the Menorah was the vessel that G-d used to blend the spiritual light of the World to Come with the physical light of this world. For this reason, the windows in the Temple were narrow on the inside and wide on the outside - to spread out this blended light to the world.
There is a prohibition against making a metal seven-branched menorah. This prohibition is part of the general prohibition against making vessels like those of the Holy Temple, and it was never rescinded.
Chanuka was instituted as an annual holiday the very first year after the Maccabean victory (165 BCE) to celebrate the victory and the miracle of the oil that burned for eight days.
The Chanuka menorah has place for eight candles and for a ninth candle set off somewhat from the rest. The eight candles commemorate the miracle of the oil while the ninth candle, the shamash, is for light. The first use of an eight-armed menorah for Chanuka is not known, although there are some dating back over 500 years. Menorah to celebrate the Maccabean victory has Nine branches too recall the nights that the oil continued to burn.
What follows is some information regarding restrictions from the Talmud for reproducing the Seven branched Menorah:
The Talmud forbids manufacturing a seven-branched candelabrum, in keeping with the Biblical prohibition of "imitating" any of the vessels (keilim) that were used in the Mishkan (Tabernacle - literally "Dwelling".)
There are three views in the early commentaries in regard to the extent of the prohibition. Some hold that only an exact replica is prohibited. Any slight change from the original in the Mishkan is permitted. Others hold that any menorah which would have been considered kosher b'dieved, is prohibited. Other poskim are even more stringent. They hold that any seven-branched menorah, made out of any metal, regardless of its shape or form, is prohibited.
The Shulchan Aruch rules [in the opinion of the Shach] in accordance with the second view, i.e., that even a menorah that is not made exactly like the one in the Mishkan but would be kosher b'dieved is prohibited. He rules, therefore, that if the menorah is not made from gold but from other types of metals; if the replica is made without the decorative cups, knobs, or flowers that were part of the original menorah; if the menorah is shorter than the 18 tefachim (4.5-6 feet) that the original menorah measured, it is still prohibited to replicate.
There are, however, some poskim who follow the third approach, that a menorah which would not have been considered kosher even b'dieved is still prohibited. In their opinion, it is forbidden to make any menorah, no matter what its shape or form, if it has seven branches. Even a menorah which is made to hold candles and not oil would be prohibited according to this strict interpretation of the halachah. A menorah which is round or square would also be prohibited. There is a debate among latter-day poskim as to whether the halachah should follow the [Shach's interpretation of the] Shulchan Aruch's lenient ruling or the stricter ruling of other poskim.
The poskim are also undecided about whether the prohibition applies only to the manufacture of such a menorah, or also to keeping it in one's possession. The poskim are also in doubt concerning the status of an eight-branched menorah of which one branch broke off (11).
Since this prohibition is of Biblical origin, we must, wherever possible, be stringent when in doubt.
Therefore:
Any menorah with six, eight, or nine branches may be made and kept in one's possession.
It is prohibited to make a seven-branched menorah out of any metal whatsoever.
A seven-branched menorah made out of wood or porcelain is permitted.
A round, triangular or square menorah with seven branches is also included in this prohibition.
Many poskim permit a seven-branched electric menorah, while others forbid.
Ideally, it is best to refrain from making one. If one happens to have such a menorah, many poskim allow one to retain it.
Notes:
Shach Aruch refers to a famous Rabbi and teacher of Torah, Rabbi Shabse HaCohen whose name is generally referred as the acyronym "Shach."
Poskim is the plural of Posek which translates "legal decisor" or a Spiritual leader of a Jewish congregation; qualified to expound and apply Jewish law. A rabbi who decides the facts about Halakha in cases of law where previous authorities are inconclusive. This decision is known as a psak din or psak halakha a ruling of law or simply a "psak". In Hebrew, פסק is the root implying to stop or cease - here the posek brings the process of legal debate to finality. Piskei Din are generally recorded in the literature.
B'dieved comes from a Hebrew word for permitted. Generally in the sense that it is questionably permitted. It literally means "hiddeness or concealment".
Thursday, August 18, 2005
A Note From My Daughter Elizabeth
A man and his dog were walking along a road The man was enjoying the
scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead.
He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for
years. He wondered where the road was leading them.
After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the
road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill, it was broken
by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.
When he was standing before it he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that
looked like mother of pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked
like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got
closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side.
When he was close enough, he called out, "Excuse me, where are we?"
"This is Heaven, sir," the man answered.
"Wow! Would you happen to have some water?" the man asked.
"Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right
up."
The man gestured, and the gate began to open.
"Can my friend," gesturing toward his dog, "come in, too?" the traveler
asked.
"I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets."
The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued
the way he had been going with his dog.
After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a
dirt road leading through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been
closed. It was a beautiful farm with gardens and orchards. There was no
fence.
As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and
reading a book.
"Excuse me!" he called to the man. "Do you have any water?"
"Yep, sure, there's a pump over there, come on in."
"How about my friend here?" the traveler gestured to the dog.
"There should be a bowl by the pump."
They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old fashioned
hand pump with a bowl beside it. The traveler filled the water bowl and
took a long drink himself, then he gave some to the dog.
When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man by the tree.
"What do you call this place?" the traveler asked.
"This is Heaven," he answered.
"Well, that's confusing," the traveler said. "The man down the road said
that was Heaven, too."
"Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Actually,
that's Hell."
"Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?"
"Nope. We're just happy they screen out the folks who would leave their
best friends behind."
Soooo...
Sometimes, we wonder why friends keep forwarding jokes to us without
writing a word. Maybe this will explain.
When you are very busy, but still want to keep in touch, guess what you do?
You forward jokes.
When you have nothing to say, but still want to keep contact, you forward
jokes.
When you have something to say, but don't know what, or don't know how, you
forward jokes.
Also, to let you know that you are still remembered, you are still
important, you are still loved, you are still cared for, guess what you
get? A forwarded joke.
So, next time if you get a joke, don't think that you've been sent just
another forwarded joke. Realize that you've been thought of today, and
your friend on the other end of your computer wanted to send you a smile.
You are welcome @ my water bowl anytime.
Wednesday, August 17, 2005
Excerpt from "Boys Will Put You On A Pedestal (to look up your skirt)
See, in New York City, owning a big ol' pump-action shotgun requires a license, which requires fingerprinting, so I have to go get it done. Then I'll be ready when the first boy comes to my door to pick up one of my daughters for a date. I want him to find me sitting in my chair, oiling up the barrel. That way he'll be in the right frame of mind when I ask the question, "What time were you planning on having her home, son?" Maybe I'll jack a round into the chamber (with that satisfying chick-CHICK noise) just for effect.
Just about every father of a teenage girl in the world has had a similar thought: substitute the words pistol, hunting knife, sword or heat-seeking nuclear device for shotgun, and I figure you have all of us dads covered. We live in fear of your dating. We know boys — we were boys — and now that we're the old guys in the situation, we have a pretty good idea of exactly what goes through the minds of the young guys. So we fantasize about arming ourselves.
What we don't know, of course, is what goes on in your mind. We didn't then and we don't now. That's why we can't ever seem to give you enough credit for being able to take care of yourself. But don't hold that against us, because no matter how terrible we are at conveying it, we really do just want you to be happy and safe. Even if that means we have to remove a few boys, along the way. (Sorry. The "I'm gonna hunt down and kill any boy that tries to touch you" joke is an automatic thing, for fathers. The best version ever is in the movie "Clueless," when Alicia Silverstone's father tells a boy, "Anything happens to my daughter, I've got a .45 and a shovel. I doubt anybody would miss you."
It doesn't help us dads that we barely even recognize the boys who show up at the door. What's with the gobs of hair product. Are all those sharp, gel-created points on their heads meant as some bizarre form of self-protection? And is it really necessary to wear pants so baggy that they would safely hold a family of five? Boys look so different from what we looked like at their age that it confuses us; it makes us wonder what else it is we don't know about the boys you hang around with.
Most of all, though, we're freaked out by the boys that you'll go out with because they represent the beginnings of your independence. Deciding who you'll date is maybe the first big decision you'll make entirely without us. (Oh, we'll try to make suggestions, but you won't listen. And you'll be right not to. Mostly.) We look at these boys who come into our homes — and your life — and we search them for clues about you. About what you're looking for and what kind of woman you'll become. In some ways, your choices about boys tell us more about you than anything else.
So have a little patience with your dad, okay? This dating stuff is hard on us.
It's no picnic for you, either, because while we're getting all weird and making jokes about shotguns, you're taking your first steps toward romantic relationships, and as often as not, those steps feel like they're taking place in a minefield. How do you know if you're choosing the right guys? Why don't they just come out and tell you what they're thinking, like your girlfriends do? How serious should you let yourself get with someone?
These are all things you're going to have to sort out for yourself, but that doesn't mean your folks can't give you a little guidance. As tempting as it will be for me to comment on every boy who comes through my door, I'll try to hold my tongue. Except, that is, for offering three little rules that might make the dating minefield a little more manageable.
First, make sure that you date boys because you honestly like them. Duh, right? Well, as obvious as it may seem, it's advice a lot of people don't follow. You'll watch plenty of relationships spring up for motives other than romantic attraction. You'll see girls pick guys based on their popularity, their car, or any one of a hundred other reasons that have nothing to do with a real spark. And while it's undoubtedly fun dating a guy just because he can spend a ton of money on you, it's also not very smart. When you make money the basis for a relationship, the only important person in that relationship is the one who has the money, you know? You become just another object that money brings, like an mp3 player or great clothes. And, like those things, you'll be replaceable.
Second, date guys within a year or two of your own age. My friend Alana always went out with much older guys. "I was so impressed with their confidence," she told me, "and my friends thought I was really sophisticated, because these guys chose me."
In junior high, she dated high school boys. In high school, she dated college boys. By the time she graduated, she found herself going out with guys a decade older than she was. She also found herself miserable. Because no matter what her friends thought, she wasn't that sophisticated, and her boyfriends didn't mind letting her know it. "I always felt inferior, because they seemed to know so much more than I did about everything, and while they loved to show me off to their friends, they had no patience around my friends." The last straw came when she was having dinner with a 31-year-old lawyer she'd been dating and his friends, and she voiced an opinion about politics. "No offense," her boyfriend said, "but you're 22. What could you know about it?" He was her ex-boyfriend before dessert was served.
What Alana realized was that relationships are supposed to be about sharing experiences, about learning things together. Looking back at her whole dating life, she suddenly felt stupid. "Everything I was going through, the guys I dated had been through years before me. The stuff they were going through, I was too young for. We had nothing to talk about!"
But while holding a conversation with Alana seemed too challenging for her boyfriends, they didn't have the same problem with sex. Being sexual with them became her way of trying to feel like their equal. It didn't work very well. She lost her virginity to a guy who couldn't wait to take her home as soon as it was over, so he could get back to his friends. "I was so not ready, and I got very shaky, afterward. He kept saying, 'What's the big deal? It's just sex.' And for him, it was. Been there, done that. For me it was something that should have been incredibly intimate and special, and I threw it away to hang on to a college guy."
Still, she kept dating older guys. Alana had gotten so used to the way they treated her — which was lousy — that she came to believe it was all she deserved. "By college, I had zero self-esteem," she says. "These guys basically wanted me for sex and to show off to their friends, and I thought I was lucky! If I had a time machine, I'd go and find myself at the age of 14, I'd shake that girl by the shoulders, and say 'Why should guys respect you when you don't even respect yourself?' "
Which brings me to the third, most important rule of dating: make sure that your boyfriends treat you with respect. Always. If they take you for granted, dump 'em. If they try to pressure you into something you don't want to do, dump 'em. If they ever touch you in any way that isn't invited and affectionate, dump 'em. (Then tell an adult. If you can't tell your folks, tell a teacher or an aunt or anyone with enough experience to help you handle it.)
Ever heard of a zero-tolerance policy? It's a fancy way of saying "no second chances." Zero-tolerance is a great rule to have in place when it comes to your love life. That doesn't mean you can't argue with a guy you're dating, or even forgive him for being immature, at times. What it does mean is that no matter what's going on between the two of you — good or bad — you always feel respected. You always feel valued for what you bring to the relationship.
If you have to exercise the zero-tolerance policy, and actually dump a guy, you'll feel lonely for a bit. You'll worry that no other boy is going to want to date you, because you're such a pain. And yes, the boys you break up with because they don't treat you well will tell their friends you're a pain. (Or a bitch, which is the Official Favorite Word of Guys-Who-Treat-Girlfriends-Like-Dirt™.) The thing is, you won't get the reputation you'll worry about getting. At least not among the guys who deserve your time. They'll see a girl who knows what she's worth, and isn't willing to accept any less. And deep down in a place most guys don't even know they have, they'll think, "If a girl that self-confident chooses me, it must mean I'm worth something, too." Any boy who makes that realization is a boy you can bring home to meet your dad.
I'll try to remember to wash the fingerprinting ink off before I shake his hand.
Excerpted from “Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal,” by Philip Van Munching.
Friday, July 08, 2005
Obituary for a Well Known Old Friend
We are mourning the loss of a beloved old friend who recently passed away. His name was Common Sense. Common Sense lived a long life, but died in the United States from a vicious, contagious disease.
He selflessly devoted his life to service in schools, hospitals, homes and factories, helping folks get the jobs done without fanfare and foolishness. For decades, petty rules, frivolous lawsuits and ludicrous verdicts held no power over Common Sense.
He was credited with cultivating such valued lessons as to know when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm, and that life isn't always fair. Common Sense lived by a simple and sound financial policy: Don't spend more than you earn. Common Sense also lived by other time-tested strategies like: The adults are in charge and not the kids, and it's OK to come in second or third.
A veteran of the Great Depression and the Technological Revolution, Common Sense survived cultural and educational trends such as body piercing, "whole language" and "new math." But his health declined when he became infected with the "I'm not responsible for my own actions" and "It's alright if it feels good" viruses. He watched in pain as good people became ruled by self-seeking lawyers. His health rapidly deteriorated when schools endlessly implemented zero-tolerance policies. Reports of a 6-year-old charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student only worsened his condition.
He declined further when schools had to get parental consent to administer aspirin to a student, but could not inform the parents or get their permission when their children were given mind-altering drugs or birth control pills.
Common Sense lost his will to live when criminals received better treatment than their victims, the Ten Commandments became contraband, and priests molested young boys.
When a president sold security-related technology to a hostile nation, Common Sense fell into a coma. As the end neared, Common Sense drifted in and out of consciousness. When the so-called religious of the nation were revealed as perverts, when the court system allowed obvious murderers and pedophiles to walk free because of their wealth and celebrity, when our nation was attacked by foriegn invaders and over 3000 innocents were executed on a September morning and scores others injured and then we sent our military to put down the enemy, but cries rang out from whiners and politicians that we had no right to put these invaders in their place, that this was an unjust war, Common Sense died of sudden cardiac arrest.
Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust; his wife, Love; his daughter, Responsibility; and his sons, Diligence and Reason. Survivors include relatives he'd rather not claim: Deception, Greed and Ignorance.
Not many attended his funeral because so few noticed he was gone.
Sunday, July 03, 2005
MORE WARS ARE CAUSED BY RELIGION... - BALONEY!
I've heard this since I was a kid. Most wars are caused by religion than by anything else. While watching some expert on CNN this week expound upon this topic and our country's poor treatment of Moslems, it occurred to me that the phrase "most wars are caused by religion" is a public relations gimmick. By spinning this issue the onus is no longer on the bad guy, the blame is on religion, particularly Christianity or Judaism.
For instance, the War of Independence. It was not fought in the name of religion. None of the causes outlined in the Declaration of Indepence mentions anything about religion. It lists grievences against the King of England, but nothing about religion.
OK you're right Marc, but what about the Crusades. That was all about demanding that Moslems kowtow to Christianity. You can't argue with that.
Well, to the Christians of Europe, Jerusalem in the Holy Land was a sacred city. The tomb of Christ, the Mount of Olives, Golgotha, and all places associated with the life and death of Christ were believed to have divine powers of healing and of absolving penitent of sin. People from all parts of Europe made pilgrimages to Jerusalem and other holy places.
As long as the Saracens held Jerusalem, there was very little trouble. The Saracens permitted the pilgrims to come and go. In 1071, however, the fierce Seljuk Turks captured Jerusalem from the Saracens. The Turks at once began to persecute the Christians. Pilgrims on their way to the Holy City were robbed and beaten. The sacred places of the Roman Catholic church were profaned or destroyed.
When European Christians heard of the persecution, they were outraged. Alexius Commenus, emperor of the Eastern Roman Empire, feared that the Turks might seize Constantinople, his capital. They had already defeated and slain his predecessor. As the terror of the Turks spread, Alexius commence sent a plea for aid to Pope Urban II at Rome.
The Pope called a council at Claremont in France in 1095. Speaking with ringing eloquence, he urged his audience to undertake a crusade to rescue the Holy Land. No speech in history has ever had greater results. Fired with religious zeal, clergy, knights, and common people shouted, "God wills it!"
So the underlying intent of the Crusades was not about the Church forcing Moslems, Jews or non-believers to give up their beliefs and practice Christianity. Nor was about Moslems demanding Christians and Jews give up their religious practice and convert to the fanatic Moslem beliefs of the Seljuk Turks. From a Moslem point of view, it was about land and power and getting rid of the infidels. For the crusaders
it was about allowing Christianity to co-exist in a part of the world that has always been deemed sacred.
What I can't argue is that there were instances when innocents were slaughtered by overzealous Christians that were way off track. Peaceful Moslem and Jews were martyrdom due to the ignorance of the Christian invaders that did not distinguish between them and the Turks. This is where prejudice comes into play on the part of "The Church." But to be fair and balanced the prejudice went both ways. The subsequent Crusades were for the most part extensions of the first Crusade except for the Childrens Crusade, which was just plain idiotic. The Crusades were not about religion.
What about The Spanish Inquisition? Well you may have me on this one. However, although blatantly evil in nature, The Inquisition was not a war.
The Spanish Inquisition was used for both political and religious reasons. Spain is a nation-state that was born out of religious struggle between numerous different belief systems including Catholicism, Islam, Protestantism and Judaism. Following the Crusades and the Reconquest of Spain by the Christian Spaniards the leaders of Spain needed a way to unify the country into a strong nation. Ferdinand and Isabella chose Catholicism to unite Spain and in 1478 asked permission of the pope to begin the Spanish Inquisition to purify the people of Spain. They began by driving out Jews, Protestants and other non-believers.
In 1483 Tomas de Torquemada became the inquisitor-general for most of Spain. He was responsible for establishing the rules of inquisition's procedure and creating branches of the Inquisition in various cities. He remained the leader of the Spanish Inquisition for fifteen years and is believed to be responsible for the execution of around 2,000 Spaniards. The Catholic Church and the Pope attempted to intervene in the bloody Spanish Inquisition but were unable to wrench the extremely useful political tool from the hands of the Spanish rulers.
The Inquisition was run procedurally by the inquisitor-general who established local tribunals of the Inquisition. Accused heretics were identified by the general population and brought before the tribunal. The were given a chance to confess their heresy against the Catholic Church and were also encouraged to indict other heretics. If they admitted their wrongs and turned in other aggressors against the church they were either released or sentenced to a prison penalty. If they would not admit their heresy or indict others the accused were publicly introduced in a large ceremony before they were publicly killed or sentenced to a life in prison. Around the 1540s the Spanish Inquisition turned its fire on the Protestants in Spain in an attempt to further unify the nation. The Spanish Inquisition's reign of terror was finally suppressed in 1834. It is unfathomable that this was allowed to go on over 350 years. Though religion was a factor, it would seem that a reasonable person could understand that this horrific epic was about power and keeping Spain from any new thoughts or ideals that did not sit well with the status quo.
Of the wars that I am familiar with, most were fought to prevent a state sanctioned religion from being implemented within or without it's boundaries.
What about America's own Civil War? That is a very complex issue.
I was taught in school that the Civil War was fought to free the slaves. Although that was a result, that was not the actual cause of the war. The basis of the war was Southern States made a decision to succeed from the United States of America and set up their own country. The United States objected to this strategy and went to war to prevent those that would dissolve "The Union".
Slavery was a key issue. I haven't studied any other faiths that may have existed within the US during this time period, so we will concentrate only on Christian Church.
The Roman Catholic Church and the Anglican Church, based on what I can find in historical documentation, were either pro-slavery or for preserving the status-quo. Let slavery exist for those that want it and for those that don't, they have the option of not keeping slaves. To justify this the Bible was quoted with emphasis that slavery existed within the Old and New Testaments. Though not much effort seem to be put forth in the teachings with in the Old Testament regarding slavery, the rights of slaves and Jubilee years. These laws are very clear and Bible teachers at the time should have been aware of them.
Evangelical Christians for the most part were anti-slavery. Although this was not always the case. Many Northern Protestant denominations were pro-slavery. Within the past couple of months of 2005 a local church initiated a "forgiveness" service for an event that happened in 1863. That congregation had shunned a church member and his family during the Civil War years for participating in the Underground Railroad. They made this family leave their church home and the community. 142 years later they sought forgiveness from the survey great-great-great grandson of this family.
Although the religious beliefs of those living at the time and those whose lives were touched by that awful war came into play, the Civil War was not about nor caused by religion.
The Second World War was not about religion. It was about freedom to live, freedom from dictatorship and freedom to worship. The Holocaust was a direct result of a mad dictators hatred of Judaism. If you don't believe that, then you can thank someone's father or grandfather that you are not a lampshade or reading this blog in German.
The Korean War was based on political issues and had little to do with religion. After WWll, the Soviets were to occupy Korea, the Japanese had already laid claim to it since the early part of the century and China was eager to seize control. The UN was asked to intervene. A war ensued.
The Viet Nam War was not about religion. President Kennedy was advised by Vice President Johnson and other policy makers that the US needed to exert influence in Southeast Asia or that country would fall into the hands of the North Vietnamese. At the time it was a province of France. The religious of Viet Nam, in this case Buddhists, were martyred by the South Vietnamese government, but this again was a political war.
The first Gulf War was to keep Iraq from invading Kuwait and taking control of it's oil resources.
You can argue that the War in Afghanistan and the current War in Iraq are about religion. But I will argue back at you that it about freedom of religion and freedom of having a state sanctioned religion imposed not only on the inhabitants of Iraq and Afghanistan, but on the rest of the world. Especially the USA. Don't forget 09/11.
What of the ongoing unrest in Israel? This is based on highly political and religious issues. However if you take a historic overview of this region, you will see that Moslems, Jews and Arabs have peacefully coexisted for years and years until some political group imposes it's mandate on a region. For many, many years Israel was under Turkish control. (See the aforementioned section ont the Crusades) The British wrested this control from the Turks during the conclusion of WWl which ended the Ottoman reign.
The Balfour Declaration granted a Jewish Homeland. Tel Aviv was the first all Jewish city. The Arabs fought with the British to gain control of the State of Israel.
At the conclusion of WWll in 1946 the Transjordan Union was established by Britain.
Two years later as a result of the Arab-Jewish War, the Jews seized control over the State of Israel. The West Bank was given to the Palestinian-Transjordan residents.
The Six Day War was initiated as a pre-emptive strike by Israel against Jordanian and Syrian troops. Israel seized control of the Gaza strip and the Sinai peninsula.
Then in 1973 the Yom Kippur War, during the Jewish High Holy Days, Israel was invaded by it's Syrian and Palestinian neighbors. During this war Israel took control of the West Bank.
Politics, the survival of the country and it's citizens was the primary basis for these two wars. The freedom to practice their religion without having the beliefs of others was also a basis for these wars and the ongoing conflict in Israel. Israelis allow Moslems and Christians the freedom to worship within their country. Try that in Iran or in Afghanistan when the Taliban controlled it. Even in modern day "free" Russia, they don't mind having the Orthodox Church, but just mere weeks ago national news headlines told of Russian police harrassing Evangelical Christians.
Nothing changes much throughout history. However it can be said without a shadow of a doubt that most wars are not caused by religion. The basis of war seems to be political power, money or preservation of a peoples homeland and way of life.
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